By Kaiti Iliopoulou
Do you ever wonder why people are being taught from day one? Why human beings are like seeds which are being fed and cultivated even from our mother’s womb? Did you always know how to walk, talk, or socialize? Or the latter weren’t just inherent ways of being? Most of us, we’ll unanimously agree that these kind of acts are an outcome of imitating the others of our lives; our Teachers or even better, our Coaches.
But first, let’s talk about the primary stages of our lives. Even before our actual birth, during the period were our mothers carry us, we are actually ideas, which are being transformed into tangible canvasses, every single day. During this transformation the idea of our being in this world is indeed rising, while our parents, biological or not, are unconsciously setting the foundation of our identity. The color of our eyes, our complexion and our name is the gift from our parents and their parents and so on. Even from the very first day of our existence, a route is predestinated by our creators.
Well of course, this is the begging of our journey which can be written in several ways. These scenarios start undoubtedly, simultaneously with the stories of our families; but you can always integrate them or even reinvent them into the schemes and pace you desire. While this power of designing preexists into our families, schools, communities etc., is given also, a priori to us. Thus, is essential to comprehend, not in a superficial way, that YOU are the designer of your life. Maybe your ancestors are the constructors of your existence and of course, you have to be grateful to them and their effort of rearing and nurturing you, but eventually, you are the architect and you decide how to tell your storyline.
However, to make the latter a reality, you have to consciously and truly be engaged to the real you. When I refer to our real self, I’m not implying that our selves are only important thing or that is easy to describe in one word or even in one sentence, who we really are; but the fact that our real self, is the self who is complementary to our thoughts and most importantly to our emotions and our needs. Thus, our real self could also change and evolve during the different stages of our lives, in new ones, even though our personalities, our values and the main features of our characters have already been transformed from the early years of our childhood and adolescence. In order to be capable of understanding our real self during our journey, we have to get deeply in touch with our feelings and our beliefs. This is essential, because if we don’t concentrate step by step to what is it, that we think of ourselves or who we need to become, then we would not be able to build up the route we desire, but the one, the others want.
Consequently, in order to be faithful to our real self, we have to become allies with our inner Thoughts & Beliefs, which in fact, are our true heritage. This would actually aid us become this person, who is actually the best coach we could ever have. So, starting from now, try Coaching Yourself! Don’t forget that your consciousness is your no.1 observer of your whole personality and therefore it actually knows how to navigate you.
In order to overcome any kind of challenge or malfunction that you face during your lifetime and understand who you really want to become, try giving yourself the time and space you need. Imagination and expectations are somehow the key for helping unlock the mindset, so as to act. These ideas, can miraculously collaborate and help you build your self-awareness. This process of manifestation isn’t easy and most of the times can be hurtful; the fear of the unknown, the possibility of failure and procrastination, are the silent negative partners of our dreams. This is why we have to reach the state of self-compassion.
Therefore, in order to begin your journey and find your objectives, you have to become more compassionate towards yourself. Listen to your inner voice, your body and the emotions you have, especially during the transformative periods of your life. Finally, start nurturing yourself, give yourself a hug and a pat on your back. Even if things aren’t going the way you want, even if you fail at some point, remember what would you say to a friend when he/she came across a hurdle? You would definitely be a more active, compassionate and empathetic listener.
Hence, it is essential to handle the situation you are facing, as if you are another person, a friend of yours or a kid, who needs a friend, a parent or a coach, to truly listen to them, understand them and be compassionate. When you consistently succeed the latter, then you will probably, discover your real self.
